Conducting of busniess and personal life, that's the challenge for most of us. Even running throughout the year, we have not enough time to do everything. Here are ten keys to understanding why we are a crazy life ... and especially to make sense of this senseless breathless race.
1. Recognize that the work has taken a disproportionate place
Pressures, meetings, daily traffic jams ... Repeating a race against time. Fatigue, headache, insomnia ... However, our grandparents felled 12-hour days without flinching. Have we become small natures?
1. Recognize that the work has taken a disproportionate place
Pressures, meetings, daily traffic jams ... Repeating a race against time. Fatigue, headache, insomnia ... However, our grandparents felled 12-hour days without flinching. Have we become small natures?
"Before the work occupied a place in balance with other dimensions, including dimensions that enable humans to build: family, community, religion. Now the work is at the center of life. "
Not only is defined by work, but more often it manages his life in the same way, with the same goals of performance and productivity. Thus, even on vacation, it is planned timings responsible for activities. Unexpected upset, life has become a job.
2. Giving meaning to our lives and our work
Working for a company for wages, for a promotion, to pay the loans, to raise children, to buy a pool. To ... The carrot on a stick. A drug, the dose must constantly increase. It works by conditioned reflex, like Pavlov's dog. And like him, it ends up no longer feel the shock, as intense as it is.
And if we worked "because" rather than "for"? In those two little words, one sees the notion of meaning. "that the ability to make sense of something used to support almost everything, and that the lack of meaning leads to disease,". It is by engaging in a project that looks like us, and which we have some control, we can find meaning in our lives.
3. Readjust our relationship to time
The effectiveness of the new communication technologies at a price: availability. Mailbox, mobile, email, answer immediately. At work, in the car, at home and at any time. More tranquility, we must remember the panic presto customer or answer his entourage overwhelmed.
Technology has radically changed our relationship to time. A wait that seemed acceptable there are only a few years becomes difficult to bear ... It is proof our aggressive face a single red light. The doctor timed: a fire immobilizes us an average of 30 seconds. Thirty short seconds for which gets pissed and sucked our heart.
Action and agitation confused. When rested was effective gestures. When stressed, we make many small gestures that give the illusion of effectiveness. Confused sweat and results. Yet there is effective time management techniques. And buttons to disconnect laptops.
4. Taming the bad wolf in us
For every living being, stress is a defensive reaction to the threat. Yesterday, the wolf. Today, the fear of losing his job, his material possessions ... The most pregnant fear comes not from outside but from within: our own fear of not meeting our performance standards.
For if it is true that the context and the pace of work has changed, the real threat comes most often from our own perception of events. we would simply "internalized wolf" ... And we would do well to do our "examination of beliefs" to adjust our perceptions of reality.
Do his "examination of beliefs" is exorcised its catastrophic ideas and realize that some events may not necessarily lead to consequences that we feared. It is also facing his emotions.
5. Learn to tolerate imperfection
"The sin is not laziness but hyperactivity! . Between 5-7 busniess and purchase the new sound system, there is simply no place for rest or for pleasure. What if we turned our performance machines tolerance machine? If we learned to dose our stressful occasions, to be less perfect? If we agreed to postpone and choose, as the obligations pleasures? And if we gave the obligation to rest?
The question is not whether or not we have reason to be tired, but to be aware of his fatigue and remedy resting, doing interesting things, and sometimes by changing attitudes . Without this awareness, we simply may not be able to get up one of those good morning and join such former colleague on the list of casualties of life ...
6. Be more critical before spending
Do we not work hard enough to deserve all these material goods? True, but we will have to "work hard" to pay for all that we chose to regard as essential. And support a pace of life that we often complain. However, all expenses are not always necessary: one can see his choice. Instead of being stressed out because you have to pay both credit and repair the CD player, we can, listening to tapes for a few weeks (or even decide to stay tenant!). It is often possible to temporarily deprive a pleasure rather than go into debt to get immediate satisfaction. And reduce stress.
7. Take action instead of ruminating
Managing stress is also to provide the means to act. By taking action, we ruminate less, and can often influence the course of events. the case of this young professional that his workload prevented him from thinking about motherhood. She confided to colleagues, just as exhausted, and together they put cards on the table with the employer. Since then, no one works up to 22 hours.
But what to do when you feel like you have tried everything without success yet solved and always the same problems? Because often we try to solve the same problems with the same solutions. If it makes you repeat 100 times the same and that no one understands, there is necessarily something we did not understand us mêmes.Il must change strategy.
In the four keys to personal balance, Jacques Lafleur tells the story of two secretaries completely overwhelmed after the departure of a colleague. For three months, they are working extra hard while complaining about their workload to their boss. This multiplies the hiring promises without taking action ... until the two secretaries announce that from him the following week, they will resume their normal schedule. Three days later, a new secretary is engaged.
8. Exercising our body to sharpen our awareness
It is well known, sport reduces stress and promotes relaxation. Physical activity provides resources to better cope with stressful situations. It allows to evolve to a higher level of thinking and open perspectives. In other words, the focus is less on the details of a problem, more on solutions.
But be careful not to reproduce in sport mechanisms exhaustion. We must choose an activity you love to be able to reap the benefits, and refrain from falling into the trap of performance. It is not in kilometers, swimming laps, or tons of cast iron must be calculated, but welfare.
Relaxation techniques are also proving a great way to take care of his body. Lack of time? Relaxation can fit nicely in everyday life. Lift, desk, queue, subway, waiting room ... Instead of ruminating, you can relax.
9. Share the pleasure of living
"We have less fear of the wolf when we are ten to confront," The key? To surround and nurture valuable relationships. To approach everything that can be protective. In everyday life, we take the time to inquire about the health of his colleague to go with his best friend, or even scratching the ears of his dog. "We are alive and need of the living". Approaching living means taking the time to share a meal, even a busniess dinner, is organizing a meeting outside rather between four gray walls. fewer goods, more links.
10. Change of life?
Stress, burnout, depression, chronic fatigue, somatization ... Our vocabulary has been enriched by a slew of words evoking our existential crisis. The wind is it running? "In my environment, more and more people being squeezed, give up half of their income to adopt a more relaxed way of life,"
The social cost of stress is enormous. Some studies suggest that 90% of medical consultations and 80% of work accidents related to it. In other words, if we develop ulcers or are injured on the assembly line, maybe it's because we swallow our grief or are mismanaging our stress. Often our work environment does not improve things.
Change of life is this possible? "Yes, say without hesitation specialists coaching, provided you make it personal." In each take a moment to find meaning in his life and seek solutions to adopt the rhythm of life of its appropriate. The best choice of life is one that leaves us much time.
Not only is defined by work, but more often it manages his life in the same way, with the same goals of performance and productivity. Thus, even on vacation, it is planned timings responsible for activities. Unexpected upset, life has become a job.
2. Giving meaning to our lives and our work
Working for a company for wages, for a promotion, to pay the loans, to raise children, to buy a pool. To ... The carrot on a stick. A drug, the dose must constantly increase. It works by conditioned reflex, like Pavlov's dog. And like him, it ends up no longer feel the shock, as intense as it is.
And if we worked "because" rather than "for"? In those two little words, one sees the notion of meaning. "that the ability to make sense of something used to support almost everything, and that the lack of meaning leads to disease,". It is by engaging in a project that looks like us, and which we have some control, we can find meaning in our lives.
3. Readjust our relationship to time
The effectiveness of the new communication technologies at a price: availability. Mailbox, mobile, email, answer immediately. At work, in the car, at home and at any time. More tranquility, we must remember the panic presto customer or answer his entourage overwhelmed.
Technology has radically changed our relationship to time. A wait that seemed acceptable there are only a few years becomes difficult to bear ... It is proof our aggressive face a single red light. The doctor timed: a fire immobilizes us an average of 30 seconds. Thirty short seconds for which gets pissed and sucked our heart.
Action and agitation confused. When rested was effective gestures. When stressed, we make many small gestures that give the illusion of effectiveness. Confused sweat and results. Yet there is effective time management techniques. And buttons to disconnect laptops.
4. Taming the bad wolf in us
For every living being, stress is a defensive reaction to the threat. Yesterday, the wolf. Today, the fear of losing his job, his material possessions ... The most pregnant fear comes not from outside but from within: our own fear of not meeting our performance standards.
For if it is true that the context and the pace of work has changed, the real threat comes most often from our own perception of events. we would simply "internalized wolf" ... And we would do well to do our "examination of beliefs" to adjust our perceptions of reality.
Do his "examination of beliefs" is exorcised its catastrophic ideas and realize that some events may not necessarily lead to consequences that we feared. It is also facing his emotions.
5. Learn to tolerate imperfection
"The sin is not laziness but hyperactivity! . Between 5-7 busniess and purchase the new sound system, there is simply no place for rest or for pleasure. What if we turned our performance machines tolerance machine? If we learned to dose our stressful occasions, to be less perfect? If we agreed to postpone and choose, as the obligations pleasures? And if we gave the obligation to rest?
The question is not whether or not we have reason to be tired, but to be aware of his fatigue and remedy resting, doing interesting things, and sometimes by changing attitudes . Without this awareness, we simply may not be able to get up one of those good morning and join such former colleague on the list of casualties of life ...
6. Be more critical before spending
Do we not work hard enough to deserve all these material goods? True, but we will have to "work hard" to pay for all that we chose to regard as essential. And support a pace of life that we often complain. However, all expenses are not always necessary: one can see his choice. Instead of being stressed out because you have to pay both credit and repair the CD player, we can, listening to tapes for a few weeks (or even decide to stay tenant!). It is often possible to temporarily deprive a pleasure rather than go into debt to get immediate satisfaction. And reduce stress.
7. Take action instead of ruminating
Managing stress is also to provide the means to act. By taking action, we ruminate less, and can often influence the course of events. the case of this young professional that his workload prevented him from thinking about motherhood. She confided to colleagues, just as exhausted, and together they put cards on the table with the employer. Since then, no one works up to 22 hours.
But what to do when you feel like you have tried everything without success yet solved and always the same problems? Because often we try to solve the same problems with the same solutions. If it makes you repeat 100 times the same and that no one understands, there is necessarily something we did not understand us mêmes.Il must change strategy.
In the four keys to personal balance, Jacques Lafleur tells the story of two secretaries completely overwhelmed after the departure of a colleague. For three months, they are working extra hard while complaining about their workload to their boss. This multiplies the hiring promises without taking action ... until the two secretaries announce that from him the following week, they will resume their normal schedule. Three days later, a new secretary is engaged.
8. Exercising our body to sharpen our awareness
It is well known, sport reduces stress and promotes relaxation. Physical activity provides resources to better cope with stressful situations. It allows to evolve to a higher level of thinking and open perspectives. In other words, the focus is less on the details of a problem, more on solutions.
But be careful not to reproduce in sport mechanisms exhaustion. We must choose an activity you love to be able to reap the benefits, and refrain from falling into the trap of performance. It is not in kilometers, swimming laps, or tons of cast iron must be calculated, but welfare.
Relaxation techniques are also proving a great way to take care of his body. Lack of time? Relaxation can fit nicely in everyday life. Lift, desk, queue, subway, waiting room ... Instead of ruminating, you can relax.
9. Share the pleasure of living
"We have less fear of the wolf when we are ten to confront," The key? To surround and nurture valuable relationships. To approach everything that can be protective. In everyday life, we take the time to inquire about the health of his colleague to go with his best friend, or even scratching the ears of his dog. "We are alive and need of the living". Approaching living means taking the time to share a meal, even a busniess dinner, is organizing a meeting outside rather between four gray walls. fewer goods, more links.
10. Change of life?
Stress, burnout, depression, chronic fatigue, somatization ... Our vocabulary has been enriched by a slew of words evoking our existential crisis. The wind is it running? "In my environment, more and more people being squeezed, give up half of their income to adopt a more relaxed way of life,"
The social cost of stress is enormous. Some studies suggest that 90% of medical consultations and 80% of work accidents related to it. In other words, if we develop ulcers or are injured on the assembly line, maybe it's because we swallow our grief or are mismanaging our stress. Often our work environment does not improve things.
Change of life is this possible? "Yes, say without hesitation specialists coaching, provided you make it personal." In each take a moment to find meaning in his life and seek solutions to adopt the rhythm of life of its appropriate. The best choice of life is one that leaves us much time.
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