In life, some have no other ambition than to amass wealth. Their whole life is based on this principle: to become richer. They work hard and struggle to cram every day a few more nuts as laborious squirrels. And year after year, while their wealth grows and becomes colossal, these people realize they are not happy.
Their instinct is to say "I have not yet be quite rich. As soon as I get this when I have bought this, then happiness will come. "They decide to give them happiness later and continue their relentless pursuit of wealth.
In the twilight of their lives, those sometimes end up realizing that they were wrong. They then look back and ruminate the failure of their lives, having the feeling of being missed something. Finally, life is not so bad! After all, with all that I have, I have to be happy now. And if happiness is just that, so it may not be worth it to give as much effort.
Of course, these people are not unhappy. They know moments of intense joy, happiness fabulous. But these are just random flash in the long night of their lives, coming and going according to circumstances.
Their instinct is to say "I have not yet be quite rich. As soon as I get this when I have bought this, then happiness will come. "They decide to give them happiness later and continue their relentless pursuit of wealth.
In the twilight of their lives, those sometimes end up realizing that they were wrong. They then look back and ruminate the failure of their lives, having the feeling of being missed something. Finally, life is not so bad! After all, with all that I have, I have to be happy now. And if happiness is just that, so it may not be worth it to give as much effort.
Of course, these people are not unhappy. They know moments of intense joy, happiness fabulous. But these are just random flash in the long night of their lives, coming and going according to circumstances.
Yet I who pretend to write about personal development, I announce that my ambition is to increase my wealth, day after day.
But then you do not understand. What he tells, that one? He took a sunburn is not possible! Well, it may simply be that you and I do not have the same definition of wealth.
What is wealth?
Many have a vision of wealth completely perverted. For them, the concept comes down to wealth = material possessions. Even for the most desperate cases, wealth = money. This is particularly true in Western cultures or we are taught that consumption is the way to happiness, the fulfillment is in physical possession, and that infinite growth is the only way out.
The result is a headlong rush into the pursuit of happiness. I am told that I have to have to be happy, but I'm not. So it is that I do not have enough. So I have to work to have more, and then I go from happiness. This brings us to neglect the basics: well-being, health, friends, etc.
Everyone knows the saying "the agent does not buy happiness." There is nothing more true, since it is possible to be happy without money, and it is possible not to be with a bank account ready to overflow. If asked, people almost always respond something like "I know that money does not buy happiness, amass is not my purpose in life." Yet behind these wise words, the reality is quite different, and behavior belie the words.
But then, what is it, to be rich?
Having Money Trouble
If you want to know if you are rich, imagine a set of circumstances quite surprising and, I admit, unlikely, you ended up half naked in the desert at night on another planet. You would be left? If you reply "not much", then I take it that you are not rich.
For my part, I think the notion of wealth is directly correlated with that of happiness. So I established a classification of sources of wealth.
First, how do you know if something is real wealth? Consider the following points:
Intrinsic or extrinsic? Your skills, your knowledge, your personality, your humor, all the jokes you have stored, etc. are all intrinsic elements. They belong to you, they are inseparable you and you characterize. Nobody can withdraw, other than making you pass the bucket.
However, your TV, your home or your car are extrinsic elements. They are outside, you can touch them, see them, feel them, hear them, but you can also lose.
There are also "mixed". Take your relationships, your friendships, your loves. All this takes root in you, but requires the intervention of external factors (others, in this case).
By definition, your wealth depends on what you own. Or, do you really have what it can not take away. Your intrinsic characteristics give you so much more wealth than your extrinsic material possessions.
Ephemeral or permanent? The second factor to consider is the temporal nature of the source of wealth considered. For example, if you are able to manage your emotions, it is that you keep all your life. At any time, you may need this skill, it will pull you in many bad situations, and you will be a great help almost every day of your life.
If you have a computer skills in a certain area, it is also a source of wealth. You can find a job and earn your butter. Except that this skill will surely become outdated and obsolete one day soon, and you have to work to keep up to date, or change jobs.
What is permanent is usually a source of greater wealth than is ephemeral. This is the essence of personal development: it is not about some tips and tricks, this is to work all his life to develop this timeless wealth.
Source of happiness or not? Third point to consider: the source of wealth is it a source of happiness? My bank account is a source of wealth. Is it a source of happiness? Surely not. My friends are a source of richesse. Are they a source of happiness? Certainly, yes!
But be careful not to fall into the trap of confusing pleasure and happiness. Pleasure is a fleeting emotion. Happiness is much more than that. This is something transcendent. A life centered on fun brings only rarely happiness.
If you have trouble distinguishing, ask yourself the question stupidly. Does owning this new car would bring me pleasure, or happiness? Generally, the answer comes by itself, if you know how to listen.
So rather than into debt just for the pleasure of driving a more powerful car, faster, heavier, more polluting, and to impress your friends, rather store your pride on the shelf, stop acting like a kid who plays "It is I who have the biggest," and you invest in more useful and less trivial causes.
Sources of wealth
The goal is not to set an exact classification of the value of sources of wealth. I am neither a mathematician nor a biologist! The aim is to give you food for thought to help you make your choices and set priorities.
Here, a small indicative and absolutely non-exhaustive list of sources of wealth:
Material possessions I have given you the impression to spit on material possessions? This is not the case. I like living in my small apartment, sleeping in my soft bed to find in good condition of the food in my fridge, and lose a few hours from time to time surfing the net through my computer.
It does not interest me to play my Diogenes living in a barrel, I want to enjoy the progress and benefits that millions of years of civilization have come to bring.
I do not spit on the money. Money is not dirty, it's part of our culture. I need money to eat, pay my bills, and devote myself to some frivolous entertainment. Otherwise, I would not put ads on Palsambleu!
But I say that the material possessions and money should not take more importance than it has, and must remain what they are: the means, not ends.
In terms of possessions, the rule is simple: you settle for the bare minimum. You can go from car? Pitch Perfect! Use public transport. You do not call all the time? Get rid of your cell phone, and take the time to write letters. You have a TV? Be ruthless! Recycle the aquarium!
Individually, each object is a source of comfort and pleasure. But accumulating, they become sources of problems. Take the car to the garage and TV repair, call the after sales service of the washing machine that has just fallen down, work more to pay for the credit, all of this takes time, you could have used to much better way and ultimately is detrimental to the quality of life. The best way to avoid this is still just the minimum.
Your knowledge: Knowledge is the level 0 of the inner wealth. Since your birth, you have ceased to be assailed information by your senses, second by second, and information, once internalized, analyzed, dissected and stored (or not) your brain becomes knowledge.
I will not go into a complicated terminological debate on what it really means knowing something. In the sense that I hear here, knowledge is akin to information. When you listen to the news, read a scientific magazine, or a philosophical book, you can increase your knowledge. When you walk the streets of your city along wide learning the names of the streets, when you ask your baker to explain how we make bread, when viewing an encyclopedia at random, you increase your knowledge.
Knowledge is the source of learning, it is the reservoir of creativity is the raw material of the imagination, it is the basis of intelligence. It is on this basis that constuiront your skills, your knowledge and life skills.
To garner more and more knowledge, it is important to stay curious and open. Ask questions, interested you, try to understand how it works, why it works, subscribe to trade magazines, talk to the people around you. And do not limit yourself to a single search box. Do not think that you will get quality knowledge just by surfing the Internet. Get out, move, play sports, music, take drawing classes, go to the theater, studying history, what do I know? Be varied! The knowledge, this is the ground of your esprit2.
Again, all the information does not have the same value. Some knowledge will make you think you will push forward and make you better. Others will only serve to make you lose time, and parasiteront your mind. This is what happens when you listen to the news items that you drink events altogether harmless and in the exceptional sensitives as common and widespread. You will have forgotten an hour later, but the discomfort and fear out persist.
Make separate things, and do not waste your time to stuff your brain with junk.
Your skills: The next level of wealth is competence, ie your expertise. Your skills are the crystallization of your knowledge, you learned to do things. You will not suffer the world around you, you can act on it. You have influence, you can make things happen, express your path observer become an actor, and reagent become proactive.
Skills are sources of wealth in the sense or represent the first step towards independence. This is what allows you to survive in the universe that is yours.
On the one skill, you can make a trade to earn your life.. But you can also use it to help your friends to cook up delicious dishes, you build a house, or seduce your partner, etc.
Again, it is important to remain open, and not to rest on his laurels by seeking cletisme. If someone offers to teach you a recipe, accept, and be a good student, attentive and curious. If you refuse, claiming that you never cook, you will have lost a good opportunity to get richer.
If you have the opportunity to learn to tinker, to draw, to juggle, to read the lines of the hand, practicing magic, public speaking, bungee jumping, accept. Give you the chance to open up by becoming proficient in many areas. Remember that knowledge is one of the most important source of power.
Your Health: For now, we have not yet spoken of the mind. With all due respect to some, and until proven otherwise, the body and mind are linked. Your body is the vehicle of your mind is your concrete tool to access the world. A strong and healthy body is therefore an invaluable asset.
If you neglect your body one day or another, every aspect of your life will suffer. You feel bad about yourself, your confidence will melt, your powers of concentration plunge and seduction level, I do not even speak.
However, a well-preserved body will allow short term to have the energy to be optimistic, enterprising, adventurous, active. In the long run, you will live long bones and in conditions. You think it is impossible to be in good shape after a certain age? Look at Yeshiva, founder of Aikido. If others have done, then you can do it.
Therefore protect his body as something extremely precious. It must be maintained regularly by exercises, flexibility and a healthy diet.
Your life skills: a healthy mind in a healthy body. This is what led you to independence. But the real wealth is found only in interdependence, in relationship to others in mutual aid, and the fact of being useful to his family and his community.
This is why most inner wealth that we can grow in my opinion, is knowledge to be. A range of synergistic skills culminating in social faculty, that of integrating into society in a group, communicate and connect with others.
Nothing really moves, but everything is different,
As these treats you eat alone, or sharing.
If riches defined above allow you to survive, know to be is how to live. But to get there, the road is long, and the many obstacles. How many friends are blurred for trivia? Because of an inability to manage emotions, discuss their problems and resolve conflicts peacefully on a win / win approach?
To build relationships and build strong and lasting relationships, we must be able to go to others, communicate properly, be trustworthy, how to say no, make available, properly manage its priorities, have humor, control emotions and stress management, and so on ...
All these faculties, this knowledge being the tramplin that will propel you to a fulfilling and happy life. Once acquired, they can never be removed from you, and you will be absolutely useful every day of your life. Knowledge is being extremly long and hard to get. This is precisely the goal of personal development: working to know.
Whether in a society, a community, a family, an association or a company, we all social roles, and nothing more than we flourishes to make our contribution to other. Is useful knowledge, to give, to ask as a resource for others, that gives us a feeling of accomplishment unprecedented.
Interdependence is an exchange. It's become essential for others, just as they will are essential. The real interdependence created synergies and releases incredible energy, making possible the accomplishment of great things.
Many people badly about themselves say "do not find their place in the world." Well this world they speak, it is not so much the environment, buildings, shops, the people around them. And those who have gone through loneliness know the price of belonging to a group, to be indispensable and have someone if needed. Merely "relationner" is a source of happiness and wealth.
Consider others as your greatest resource. Nothing helps out when a friend is in trouble. Nothing helps a group of friends when you have to move. Nothing is sweeter than a candlelit evening with his half. It is your knowledge that your best opportunities will spring. But you can not always take without giving anything. For this fabulous resource is accessibe, you need, you also become a resource for others.
But then you do not understand. What he tells, that one? He took a sunburn is not possible! Well, it may simply be that you and I do not have the same definition of wealth.
What is wealth?
Many have a vision of wealth completely perverted. For them, the concept comes down to wealth = material possessions. Even for the most desperate cases, wealth = money. This is particularly true in Western cultures or we are taught that consumption is the way to happiness, the fulfillment is in physical possession, and that infinite growth is the only way out.
The result is a headlong rush into the pursuit of happiness. I am told that I have to have to be happy, but I'm not. So it is that I do not have enough. So I have to work to have more, and then I go from happiness. This brings us to neglect the basics: well-being, health, friends, etc.
Everyone knows the saying "the agent does not buy happiness." There is nothing more true, since it is possible to be happy without money, and it is possible not to be with a bank account ready to overflow. If asked, people almost always respond something like "I know that money does not buy happiness, amass is not my purpose in life." Yet behind these wise words, the reality is quite different, and behavior belie the words.
But then, what is it, to be rich?
Having Money Trouble
If you want to know if you are rich, imagine a set of circumstances quite surprising and, I admit, unlikely, you ended up half naked in the desert at night on another planet. You would be left? If you reply "not much", then I take it that you are not rich.
For my part, I think the notion of wealth is directly correlated with that of happiness. So I established a classification of sources of wealth.
First, how do you know if something is real wealth? Consider the following points:
Intrinsic or extrinsic? Your skills, your knowledge, your personality, your humor, all the jokes you have stored, etc. are all intrinsic elements. They belong to you, they are inseparable you and you characterize. Nobody can withdraw, other than making you pass the bucket.
However, your TV, your home or your car are extrinsic elements. They are outside, you can touch them, see them, feel them, hear them, but you can also lose.
There are also "mixed". Take your relationships, your friendships, your loves. All this takes root in you, but requires the intervention of external factors (others, in this case).
By definition, your wealth depends on what you own. Or, do you really have what it can not take away. Your intrinsic characteristics give you so much more wealth than your extrinsic material possessions.
Ephemeral or permanent? The second factor to consider is the temporal nature of the source of wealth considered. For example, if you are able to manage your emotions, it is that you keep all your life. At any time, you may need this skill, it will pull you in many bad situations, and you will be a great help almost every day of your life.
If you have a computer skills in a certain area, it is also a source of wealth. You can find a job and earn your butter. Except that this skill will surely become outdated and obsolete one day soon, and you have to work to keep up to date, or change jobs.
What is permanent is usually a source of greater wealth than is ephemeral. This is the essence of personal development: it is not about some tips and tricks, this is to work all his life to develop this timeless wealth.
Source of happiness or not? Third point to consider: the source of wealth is it a source of happiness? My bank account is a source of wealth. Is it a source of happiness? Surely not. My friends are a source of richesse. Are they a source of happiness? Certainly, yes!
But be careful not to fall into the trap of confusing pleasure and happiness. Pleasure is a fleeting emotion. Happiness is much more than that. This is something transcendent. A life centered on fun brings only rarely happiness.
If you have trouble distinguishing, ask yourself the question stupidly. Does owning this new car would bring me pleasure, or happiness? Generally, the answer comes by itself, if you know how to listen.
So rather than into debt just for the pleasure of driving a more powerful car, faster, heavier, more polluting, and to impress your friends, rather store your pride on the shelf, stop acting like a kid who plays "It is I who have the biggest," and you invest in more useful and less trivial causes.
Sources of wealth
The goal is not to set an exact classification of the value of sources of wealth. I am neither a mathematician nor a biologist! The aim is to give you food for thought to help you make your choices and set priorities.
Here, a small indicative and absolutely non-exhaustive list of sources of wealth:
Material possessions I have given you the impression to spit on material possessions? This is not the case. I like living in my small apartment, sleeping in my soft bed to find in good condition of the food in my fridge, and lose a few hours from time to time surfing the net through my computer.
It does not interest me to play my Diogenes living in a barrel, I want to enjoy the progress and benefits that millions of years of civilization have come to bring.
I do not spit on the money. Money is not dirty, it's part of our culture. I need money to eat, pay my bills, and devote myself to some frivolous entertainment. Otherwise, I would not put ads on Palsambleu!
But I say that the material possessions and money should not take more importance than it has, and must remain what they are: the means, not ends.
In terms of possessions, the rule is simple: you settle for the bare minimum. You can go from car? Pitch Perfect! Use public transport. You do not call all the time? Get rid of your cell phone, and take the time to write letters. You have a TV? Be ruthless! Recycle the aquarium!
Individually, each object is a source of comfort and pleasure. But accumulating, they become sources of problems. Take the car to the garage and TV repair, call the after sales service of the washing machine that has just fallen down, work more to pay for the credit, all of this takes time, you could have used to much better way and ultimately is detrimental to the quality of life. The best way to avoid this is still just the minimum.
Your knowledge: Knowledge is the level 0 of the inner wealth. Since your birth, you have ceased to be assailed information by your senses, second by second, and information, once internalized, analyzed, dissected and stored (or not) your brain becomes knowledge.
I will not go into a complicated terminological debate on what it really means knowing something. In the sense that I hear here, knowledge is akin to information. When you listen to the news, read a scientific magazine, or a philosophical book, you can increase your knowledge. When you walk the streets of your city along wide learning the names of the streets, when you ask your baker to explain how we make bread, when viewing an encyclopedia at random, you increase your knowledge.
Knowledge is the source of learning, it is the reservoir of creativity is the raw material of the imagination, it is the basis of intelligence. It is on this basis that constuiront your skills, your knowledge and life skills.
To garner more and more knowledge, it is important to stay curious and open. Ask questions, interested you, try to understand how it works, why it works, subscribe to trade magazines, talk to the people around you. And do not limit yourself to a single search box. Do not think that you will get quality knowledge just by surfing the Internet. Get out, move, play sports, music, take drawing classes, go to the theater, studying history, what do I know? Be varied! The knowledge, this is the ground of your esprit2.
Again, all the information does not have the same value. Some knowledge will make you think you will push forward and make you better. Others will only serve to make you lose time, and parasiteront your mind. This is what happens when you listen to the news items that you drink events altogether harmless and in the exceptional sensitives as common and widespread. You will have forgotten an hour later, but the discomfort and fear out persist.
Make separate things, and do not waste your time to stuff your brain with junk.
Your skills: The next level of wealth is competence, ie your expertise. Your skills are the crystallization of your knowledge, you learned to do things. You will not suffer the world around you, you can act on it. You have influence, you can make things happen, express your path observer become an actor, and reagent become proactive.
Skills are sources of wealth in the sense or represent the first step towards independence. This is what allows you to survive in the universe that is yours.
On the one skill, you can make a trade to earn your life.. But you can also use it to help your friends to cook up delicious dishes, you build a house, or seduce your partner, etc.
Again, it is important to remain open, and not to rest on his laurels by seeking cletisme. If someone offers to teach you a recipe, accept, and be a good student, attentive and curious. If you refuse, claiming that you never cook, you will have lost a good opportunity to get richer.
If you have the opportunity to learn to tinker, to draw, to juggle, to read the lines of the hand, practicing magic, public speaking, bungee jumping, accept. Give you the chance to open up by becoming proficient in many areas. Remember that knowledge is one of the most important source of power.
Your Health: For now, we have not yet spoken of the mind. With all due respect to some, and until proven otherwise, the body and mind are linked. Your body is the vehicle of your mind is your concrete tool to access the world. A strong and healthy body is therefore an invaluable asset.
If you neglect your body one day or another, every aspect of your life will suffer. You feel bad about yourself, your confidence will melt, your powers of concentration plunge and seduction level, I do not even speak.
However, a well-preserved body will allow short term to have the energy to be optimistic, enterprising, adventurous, active. In the long run, you will live long bones and in conditions. You think it is impossible to be in good shape after a certain age? Look at Yeshiva, founder of Aikido. If others have done, then you can do it.
Therefore protect his body as something extremely precious. It must be maintained regularly by exercises, flexibility and a healthy diet.
Your life skills: a healthy mind in a healthy body. This is what led you to independence. But the real wealth is found only in interdependence, in relationship to others in mutual aid, and the fact of being useful to his family and his community.
This is why most inner wealth that we can grow in my opinion, is knowledge to be. A range of synergistic skills culminating in social faculty, that of integrating into society in a group, communicate and connect with others.
Nothing really moves, but everything is different,
As these treats you eat alone, or sharing.
If riches defined above allow you to survive, know to be is how to live. But to get there, the road is long, and the many obstacles. How many friends are blurred for trivia? Because of an inability to manage emotions, discuss their problems and resolve conflicts peacefully on a win / win approach?
To build relationships and build strong and lasting relationships, we must be able to go to others, communicate properly, be trustworthy, how to say no, make available, properly manage its priorities, have humor, control emotions and stress management, and so on ...
All these faculties, this knowledge being the tramplin that will propel you to a fulfilling and happy life. Once acquired, they can never be removed from you, and you will be absolutely useful every day of your life. Knowledge is being extremly long and hard to get. This is precisely the goal of personal development: working to know.
Whether in a society, a community, a family, an association or a company, we all social roles, and nothing more than we flourishes to make our contribution to other. Is useful knowledge, to give, to ask as a resource for others, that gives us a feeling of accomplishment unprecedented.
Interdependence is an exchange. It's become essential for others, just as they will are essential. The real interdependence created synergies and releases incredible energy, making possible the accomplishment of great things.
Many people badly about themselves say "do not find their place in the world." Well this world they speak, it is not so much the environment, buildings, shops, the people around them. And those who have gone through loneliness know the price of belonging to a group, to be indispensable and have someone if needed. Merely "relationner" is a source of happiness and wealth.
Consider others as your greatest resource. Nothing helps out when a friend is in trouble. Nothing helps a group of friends when you have to move. Nothing is sweeter than a candlelit evening with his half. It is your knowledge that your best opportunities will spring. But you can not always take without giving anything. For this fabulous resource is accessibe, you need, you also become a resource for others.